The Importance of the “Little Things” – Donations of Lingerie to NY DV Residences

On this quiet day, I take a moment to reflect on the donations drives we have been doing since February.  To date we have visited 10 domestic violence residences throughout New York City.  Voices of America, The Center Against Domestic Violence, Safe Horizon…….well we have been to residences from Rockaway Beach to the Bronx.

Alot of work goes into navigating the world of domestic violence service.  Residence directors may love a program but have neither time or space.  Scheduling is critical.  We have experienced going to residences with fewer women than expected because housing openings became available. Most of our visits are planned months in advance.  But with advance notice we can make these Empowerment Days something extraordinary.

Once we have the date, then we begin – sizing and sorting the bags and bags of donations.  And what donations they are!  Bras, Panties, Nightgowns – EVEN Swimwear has been donated!  All items are new and unused and ready for new ownership!

The most powerful experience is hearing the responses from women.  Many of the women are still living with the same items they left with. They share that these items are desperately needed.  Our donations go from the smallest to the largest sizes so every person can receive 5 or more garments.

We arrange the lingerie in such a way that the women feel as if they are shopping.  There is lots of laughter and chatting, with women taking the time to really make the choices that make them feel good!

We have more shelters to go, with swimwear donations coming up next and I am so happy to share this goodness with women in need!

Sue Rock Originals Apparel Showcase at Full Figured Fashion Week – June 19, 2015

It is will great pride that Sue Rock Originals Everyone will present our apparel line Sue Rock Originals at the upcoming fashion event – Full Figured Fashion Week.

Full Figured Fashion Week, now in its SEVENTH year is home to the plus fashion event internationally!  Established by visionary Gwen Devoe, FFFWeek hosts a week of conversations, events, and amazing fashion shows with a focus on the curvy customer!  Each year this event has grown with an extraordinary assortment of sponsors and plus celebrities and this year is no different!

GET YOUR TICKETS NOW for the Indie Showcase – Held Friday, June 19th at the Broad St. Ballroom in NYC!
Click HERE

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But Really WHY Don’t More Women Leave? Ten Reasons that Make Sense!

Great strides have been made in the domestic violence arena since the early 1970’s when women first advocated for domestic violence shelters and prosecution of batterers. But as we see time and time again, through the press, social media and for some of us in our own lives, women are still forced to stay in situations that are unmanangeable, insecure and at worst dangerous.

These are the top ten reasons indicated by the National Domestic Violence Hotline that are obstacles to a woman leaving her batterer

1. Advocate: The victim doesn’t have an enthusiastic supporter on their side so may feel discouraged or hopeless.

2. Batterer: The batterer is wealthy, famous, powerful in the community, etc., and can afford to hire private counselor and pressure decision-makers.

3. Believes Threats: The victim believes the batterer’s threats to kill them and the children if they attempt to leave.

4. Children’s Best Interest: The victim believes it is in the children’s best interest to have both parents in the home, especially if the abuser doesn’t physically abuse the children.

5. Children’s Pressure: The children put pressure (independently or by the abuser’s influence) on the abused parent to stay with their partner.

6. Culture and Race: Because of differences in race or culture, the victim worries about being treated unequally by the justice system if they come forward, or believes stereotypes about acceptable actions in their own culture.

7. Denial: The victim is in denial about the danger, instead believing that if they could be better partners, the abuse would stop.

8. Disabled: Victims who are disabled or physically challenged face obstacles in gaining access to court and social services, and may be isolated from basic info about resources.

9. Elderly: Elderly victims may hold traditional beliefs about marriage and believe they must stay, or are dependent on the batterer for care even in the face of physical abuse.

10. Excuses: The victim believes the abuser’s excuses to justify the violence, blaming job stress or substance abuse for example.

Understanding can help us all support the hurdles a woman may go through when making choices regarding her safety or the safety of her family.


Sue Rock Originals Everyone is a 501(c)3 not for profit organization.
Classes in sewing, knitting and crocheting happen through your financial support.
Give and give generously to keep this vital work going!
Donations can be received through Paypal at suerockoriginals(at)yahoo.com.

If you love to Crochet or Knit – WE NEED YOU!

CALLING FOR CROCHET AND KNITTING VOLUNTEERS! Sue Rock Originals Everyone is restocking hand crafted items for the domestic violence survivors we will be meeting throughout the spring and summer. Whether you love creating granny square shrink vests, ponchos or cute skirts – We Need You! Contact us at suerockoriginals@yahoo.com. All skill levels appreciated. Patterns and Yarn are available – Make a difference in the life of a woman who had the courage to leave!!

Domestic Violence Organization Spotlight – The VIOLENCE INTERVENTION PROGRAM, Inc.

Last week Sue Rock Originals Everyone had the pleasure of presenting our Empowerment Day to the women of the Violence Intervention Program’s Bronx shelter. Women who have left the cycle of violence are able to start a new life here, raise their children and gain some much needed perspective. I hosted the event with the wonderful and capable hands of fashion stylist Steffany Allen. Steffany has 20 years of experience in fashion, with special expertise in the Plus Size market.  When we told her about our lingerie themed Empowerment Events, she loved the idea of being able to give back!

The Violence Intervention Program, Inc. has been around since 1984 and has consistently helped women lead healthy, safe, and productive lives while advocating for systems and policies that protect all victims of abuse and violence.

Commitment to an Immigrant Population: During much of the 1980s, crime and poverty rates rose in New York City and the city suffered a shortage of affordable housing. Immigrant victims of domestic violence became especially vulnerable to homelessness because of the barriers that prevented many from accessing emergency shelters. For VIP and the NYC as a whole, 1988 was a monumental year: Morivivi—the first domestic violence shelter specifically targeting immigrant Latina victims—was established.

If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, the Violence Intervention Program is here to help – they can be reached here!


Sue Rock Originals Everyone is a 501(c)3 not for profit organization.
Classes in sewing, knitting and crocheting happen through your financial support.
Give and give generously to keep this vital work going!
Donations can be received through Paypal at suerockoriginals(at)yahoo.com.

The Importance of Being Relevant

Sue Rock OriginalIn the fall of 2013, Sue Rock Originals Everyone transitioned out of our Crown Heights studio. Though initially heartbreaking – in time we looked at it as a unique opportunity.  You see, we had great success for five years – working with volunteers and receiving donations – but we still were missing something significant – the core voices of domestic violence survivors themselves-

Having autonomy meant going TO the survivors themselves, wherever they were. We could find out just what they needed and what items were most critical to their recovery. It would also be an excellent opportunity to meet these directors and hear the stories of who came to their shelters. Were there a growing number of men, as has been reported? Were women arriving with older and older children? How much space is available for women to create the things they need?

For 2015, Sue Rock Originals Everyone is in the field and on the road!  It is about listening to the voices of domestic violence survivors – their needs, their desires and their choices!  It is about the textile arts and the creation of programs being relevant to the needs of the people we are serving.

Some of the most longstanding domestic violence organizations are based here in New York City.  Organizations with shelters include Safe Horizon, the Center Against Domestic Violence, New York Asian Women’s Center and URI.  These organizations are all going to be a part of our ongoing EMPOWERMENT DAYS for survivors living in residence.

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While receiving beautiful NEW Lingerie and Jewelry, as well as hand crafted pieces – residents will have an opportunity to share their experiences while living in a domestic violence shelter.  They will let us know what apparel or home furnishings they have received and what items will be difficult for them to get once they leave.  We also listen to survivors interests regarding the textile arts.

With assumptions of what people want everywhere you look – it is important to listen and gain valuable feedback when being of service to others!


Sue Rock Originals Everyone is a 501(c)3 not for profit organization.
Classes in sewing, knitting and crocheting happen through your financial support.
Give and give generously to keep this vital work going!
Donations can be received through Paypal at suerockoriginals(at)yahoo.com.

 

Creating beautiful things can be as Easy as 1 – 2 – 3!!

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Many people don’t believe that making garments can be as easy!  ” I can’t sew – I can’t even thread a needle!”

Well its amazing what can be accomplished with a little encouragement – the right tools and some beautiful fabric.  For the past three weeks, we have worked on our Empowerment Program classes and have been amazed at the great pieces people are creating around the country –

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You see creating for women is more that just giving them “something to do” – it means sharing the joy of creating something you can enjoy Right NOW!.  It means stimulating the creativity so that a person can ENVISION beautiful items out of a yard of fabric or a few skeins of yarn…..its all a process.
And it is nothing if it doesn’t touch the individual personally!

f1152b08f450487a78c600ee2eca0094A great project is listed below – the DIY Hi-Low Skirt! Great for Every figure!

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Sue Rock Originals Everyone is a 501(c)3 not for profit organization.
Classes in sewing, knitting and crocheting happen through your financial support.
Give and give generously to keep this vital work going!
Donations can be received through Paypal at suerockoriginals(at)yahoo.com.

“Prepare an emergency WHAT?” -Emergency Bag preparations and MORE Facts on how difficult it is to leave…..

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From the pages of Safe Horizon – this is the list of items a person should collect to have ready to leave at any moment:

  • House keys
  • Car keys
  • Order of Protection
  • ATM card
  • Money/cab fare
  • Checkbook
  • Credit card
  • Passport
  • Green card
  • Work permit
  • Public Assistance ID
  • Mobile phone/coins to use in a payphone
  • Driver’s license & registration
  • Social security card
  • Your partner’s social security number
  • Medical records
  • Address book
  • Insurance policies
  • Important legal documents
  • Police records • Record of violence
  • Baby’s things (diapers, formula, medication)
  • Children’s school and immunization records
  • Birth certificates
  • Medications
  • Clothing
  • Eyeglasses
  • Lease
  • Non-perishable snacks for you and your children (e.g. juice and crackers)
  • Important phone numbers including the Safe Horizon Domestic Violence Hotline: 800.621.HOPE (4673) (If you are not in New York City, call the national hotline at 800.799.SAFE (7233)

I am not sure about you but I am hard pressed to find my phone sometimes!  During a time of extreme stress and fear – how difficult is is to remember ALL of the items on this list.  Then the person leaving for their lives has to make sure this bag is not some how discovered by the abuser.

How ready would you be to leave everything in your life that is familiar?  At a moments notice?

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Sue Rock Originals Everyone is a 501(c)3 not for profit organization.
Classes in sewing, knitting and crocheting happen through your financial support.
Give and give generously to keep this vital work going!
Donations can be received through Paypal at suerockoriginals(at)yahoo.com.

DONATIONS MAKE THE WORLD GO ROUND! (and they are FUN too!)

I guess you could say I have “Santa Claus” DNA. One of my most favorite aspects of Sue Rock Originals Everyone is the presentation of donations. The process of sharing much needed essentials to women of courage is rewarding and so powerful.

The domestic violence experience for millions of people is humiliating. Heart wrenching stories of abuse abound our airwaves and newspaper. But when a person has the opportunity to leave – the shame might not stop there.

Sue Rock Originals Everyone seeks to include everyone in the upliftment of women who have made the enormous step to envision a new life for themselves.

This Tuesday, we look forward to sharing the beautiful donations from:

Photographer Tal Shpantzer – MAYBELLINE COSMETICS

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LUSH COSMETICS

Ariela Alpha Intimates

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Berry Jewelry

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And handcrafted goodies galore!!

All this is going to the wonderful women who are living in residences run by the Jewish Board of Family and Children’s Service.

From their website:

JBFCS is New York City’s largest provider of human services. We base our work on one core belief: changing behavior can change lives for the better. And here’s what happens when that simple idea meets up with our 35,000 clients: greater wellness and independence for our 35,000 clients and everyone connected to them — friends, co-workers, parents, children, siblings, neighbors…all of us. That is a lot of people. That is why this 100-year-old agency is a cherished NYC asset — a catalyst for making the world a better place.

If you or someone you know is in need of domestic violence services The Jewish Board of Family and Children’s Service domestic violence services are located here.

Sue Rock Originals Everyone is a 501(c)3 not for profit organization.
Our work continues through YOUR donations.
Give and give generously to keep this vital work going!
Donations can be received through Paypal at suerockoriginals(at)yahoo.com.

Domestic Violence Shelter Spotlight! – The Center Against Domestic Violence

There was a time…..not that long ago

When Domestic Violence Shelters/Residences and Safe Houses did not exist!  Women had no recourse but to leave town or stay for years with their abuse.  It was through the strength of the Women’s Movement of mid 1970’s that organizations began to develop and speak to the need of women who were suffering.  Early responses to these victims’ needs relied exclusively upon the voluntary efforts of battered women’s advocates. Until shelters were established, volunteers often used their own homes as makeshift places of refuge for women and children. The first shelters opened their doors in the early to mid-1970s, and provided temporary housing, free food and clothing, social support, and legal assistance. Founders often maintained secrecy regarding the locations of these shelters for the protection of the residents.

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The Center Against Domestic Violence began at a “speak out” in Brooklyn in 1976 where more than a hundred women told how their lives had been turned upside down by domestic violence. One thing became clear: There was no place where mothers could flee to safety with their children. In fact, it was against regulations to bring a child to the “unfit” environment of a shelter. A group of trailblazing women—domestic violence victims, survivors and advocates—set out to change all that and the Center was born.

The Center’s Women’s Survival Space, a place where abused women and their children could find safety, was the first of its kind in the State and is now the longest operating domestic violence emergency shelter in New York. Today the Center houses up to 1,000 women and children each year in three emergency shelters.

393203_2573051804125_35704097_nSue Rock Originals Everyone taught residents of the Center Against Domestic Violence in the sewing, knitting and crocheting at their Brooklyn studio.  It was a wonderful experience – teaching women how to make their own garments and accessories.  The classes grew from 8 to 18, as women left with a renewed level of self-esteem and personal accomplishment!

If you or someone you know is in need of domestic violence services The Center Against Domestic Violence is located in Brooklyn, New York – their number is (718) 254-9134

Sue Rock Originals Everyone is a 501(c)3 not for profit organization and we exist through YOUR donations. Give and give generously to keep this vital work going for women who are ready to begin to live again! Donations can be received through Paypal at suerockoriginals(at)yahoo.com.

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