Time and again – in the press and in public conversations, the topic of domestic violence is in our living rooms. Without personal knowledge of the realities – people often ask “Why don’t they just leave?” This, as we know is a farce. Even in the best situation with a wonderful relationship and opportunities in abundance, a person can rarely just leave their home….
One of the most difficult experiences is coming to terms with the reality of bad relationship gone horrible wrong. According to the New York State Coalition of Domestic Violence:
- Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive behavior/tactics that is culturally learned, socially condoned, and is perpetrated by one person against their intimate partner. Types of abuse can include physical, sexual, psychological, and economic abuse. Domestic violence can also be perpetrated by and/or against a member of the same family or household.
- Domestic violence is not limited to specific groups based on race, socioeconomic status, gender identity, sex, sexual orientation, ethnicity, age, religious affiliation, or social location, but rather is perpetrated by abusers from all social groups.
Becoming aware that you are in a relationship of this type can be frightening. Men and women each have to come to their own choices as to what strategy is best for them in their situation.
If you or someone you know is in a domestic violence situation – get help!
Some of the organizations based in New York City we work with are :
Center Against Domestic Violence
Sanctuary for Families
The Family Justice Center
AND THIS JUST IN – If you are an American overseas in an abusive situation:
The American Overseas Domestic Violence Crisis Center
Next Month we will look at preparation a domestic violence survivor has to do JUST to get ready for that big step….